Monday, February 7, 2011

Be A Man, Man (Part 4)


Hey guys. I know I've discussed this before, but I feel like since so many guys have struggled with this at some point (including myself) it's worth talking about even if my information only helps one person.

That being said, some things in my own life have made me think about what makes an alpha. Those little 'events' where you're standing at a crossroads, and that part of the back of your brain urges you to take the easy road... and I'm learning not to. As a result, I've felt a TON of more confidence, way happier, and my life feels much more successful than it was previously.

So, what is this difference I have found?

Well, the main difference is... (this also relates to the above picture is)

A Beta Male is affected by the world around him (his environment, the people, his family, his job, etc)

An Alpha Male affects the world around him. He influences peoples, he instigates change in his environment, job, and family. He controls his environment and is himself in his truest form wherever he goes and whatever happens to him.

In life, people are going to tell you things that are 'good idea's. Ways to live your life... how to act, more importantly, what to think. At first, it may just start with your friends and family. A great example is religion. Chances are, if your family is religious, they will try to influence you into becoming religious yourself. They will apply their beliefs, rules, and thoughts onto you, and convince you to agree with them. As you grow older, these outside influences spread to your friends and colleagues, the media, and your government.

The media tells you what causes you aught to believe in. What people you aught to feel sorry for.

Your government tells you things you aught to believe, aught to follow, and aught to obey. Unfortunately, your parents just set you up for failure with this, teaching you young to 'listen and obey authority'. 

But you might say... 'you can still be an Alpha Male and obey laws and such'... which is perfectly true. The difference between how a beta and alpha handle it however, is worlds apart. A beta adopts other peoples beliefs as his own, falls in line, receives his stamp or ticket, and follows the on-rails train ride so many before him have dubbed 'life'. However, an alpha listens to beliefs, laws, and ideas, but through critical thinking chooses what to believe and what not.

As an example, I believe murder is wrong. That being said, I believe killing someone in order to prevent them from hurting a lot of people to be right. Thus, I have no problem at all with vigilante justice, so long as it doesn't spiral out of control and lose sight of what's important.

So what can you do?

Think critically, formulate your own opinions and beliefs that are truly yours. Don't just take what you are fed. The day you start letting people tell you how to live your life (including your parents, friends, and significant other) is the day you let yourself become just another beta lost in the blinding rustle of white wool.

Be a wolf instead.

28 comments:

Tasty said...

Excellent post. I believe this issue is not addressed enough. Are you interested in evolutionary biology as a whole? I've been reading a great book called "Sperm Wars" which you might be interested in.

Zoe! said...

Great advice!

Poetry of the Day said...

damn right. BE AN ALPHA!

- <3 Famous Poetry about life

Poetry of the Day said...

but dont be one of those alphas that are cocky ass holes. because you are just a douche bag then.

and then there was METAL said...

i feel more like a man now

-Metalcore

The Liquor Guy said...

I was too busy being Alpha as Fuck to notice I'm surrounded by betas.

Zack said...

Wow Arnold was huge.

Onesimus said...

Wu De, Bushido, Chivalry, that's what alpha was back in the day. Now it's douche bags with popped collars and spray on tans. I think I'll stick to my Wu De.

Hart said...

I think there's more than alpha, beta, omega.

Walkabeast said...

Truth right here

Das Auto! said...

not everyone can be an alpha unfortunately, because the world wouldn't function properly.

Adolph Gingerhorn said...

I think that a lot of what you might call "alpha males" are people who conform to the norms and rules of society and never challenge them or think about them at all. They learn how to be successful within the system and the system rewards them for never challenging it.

By acting as alpha males and believing that they are in control, they are doing nothing more than reinforcing the stereotypes that they see all around them.

If you look at world leaders, people who head corporations, people who generally are in charge of things, then what you see are people who absorb and then radiate the norms of society without challenging them. They set the tone for how others should act, but they themselves are not aware of just how much they are manipulated by and are products of the very propaganda they espouse.

The people who question and challenge the system, I mean truly question it, are the ones who break out of this whole alpha/beta thing all together. No one can make sense of them and so they are generally crushed or outcast by the system. These people are geniuses, artists, thinkers, visionaries. Sometimes their ideas take generations to be understood. They are never alpha males, they are never beta males. They make that whole idea seem irrelevant.

This is just my 2 cents. I liked your post.

cooperlife said...

it also helps to have a large penis.

Telia Tuli said...

Dude
I think i'm some where in between.
You have to be on either end to pick up the chicks.

!sense! said...

i will start standing strong

Doo said...

I'm somewhere in the middle! You got some great points here :)

LeX said...

this reminds me of that stupid movie alpha dog

TreeBranchez said...

Very well written.

Bob said...

The most important part is getting a wolf shirt...

scaggz said...

the picture of Arnold is pure enough win as it is. he is a true man,

Gaming Day said...

This is very true. Im reading a book Cats Cradle and I see alot of myslef in the character. I feel I am more of a Alpha but sometimes follow others so i have to work on that anyways great post!

Chock Full of BS said...

I would have considered myself an alpha male a few years ago, but within the last year or so I've started over thinking everything and started doubting myself. I used to not care what people thought of me and I was much happier. My relationships with my family and friends was much better. I'm almost back to mindset.

Blind-Guy said...

I have to say, I've read through this post and it reminds me of the scene in Fight Club, where Tyler Durden is speaking about how people should be living up to their potential by rebelling. This post inspired me just as much.

Chris said...

Truer words have never been said. Followed

Braingeyser said...

Fantastic advice that I wish I'd received when I was 16 or so.

Neuro said...

Critical thinking should be developed in schools

LacedNFitted said...

Great Arnold Pic haa

Erasmus said...

Too bad the schools are so ineffective. Even if they "taught" it, they'd fail miserably at it.

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